Back and better

Hi readers, I have been away for like ages... This is due to parenting(preg and d lots)... God blessed me with a beautiful baby 👧..... So sweet and loving after three boys. It hasn't been easy on me.
  Dear readers, let's all roll together and I promise to be better. Love u all, 😘 😘 xoxo

Four siblings with same birthday???

This is a very rare case....In fact the first of its kind that l have come across.
       These are actually my cousins,today is their birthday, the four of them; Born of same parents..
Have u seen such? Where all the children in a home share same birthday?
   Pls drop ur comments and birthday wishes..

Goodluck or Buhari??? Cast your votes

Hello fabz,
     I ain't a politician or supporting any of the political party.....Buh let me just know wat my readers think.
So who are you gonna vote for come the presidential election day and if you can tell us why?
As for me,I think Goodluck has ruled under my watch and l ain't OK with him,Buhari did when l wasn't even sure my mum was married(Lol)......
So l wanna see him do his own part....My opinion o

Yello GRT fans!!! Blogging reloaded

Hey fans,its been a while since l stopped blogging....So many things have been going on;motherhood,school and other responsibilities l had to handle....
The good news is that am back and better,so watcha for me...

Question of the day:Can you use fetish means to get a person to marry you?

Many a times,people wonder why so many persevere in relationships and marriages even when it is obviously going nowhere. Ever wondered why so many still linger in such dooms?

A person suggested that there might be something absurd behind it. Do you think someone might use a fetish means to lure a spouse???

Please share your thoughts below

What is Valentine all about?

Valentine is around the corner,many are preparing,but not all knows the meaning of what they are celebrating. 
Why do we celebrate Valentine?

Who should love most in relationship/marriage?

Dear Grace,
  Hope you had a great day.Please I am in doubt about something.I got married last year and before then,my husband was so loving that I thought all was complete not until recently,I don't know who loves who most.

I feel cheated and unloved.Please,who is supposed to love most in marriage,me or him?

I was taught that a woman should only submit to her husband,while the man should love his wife.
Help me out please.

Is it right to marry a 16 year old?

Good morning fellas,its been a very long time sime l wrote on this blog,this is due to the fact that I have been so busy with family issues.
A reader of mine sent me this question and he wants advice

''Dear Grace,is it right for me to date/marry a girl of 16?
I have been eyeing tis girl in my neighbourhood,she is s reserved and homely and I think of approaching her. I am 30 and would love to hear your honest advices.

Please,what do you think he should do?

Relationship don't for the day:Don't put up with a guy,until you are married to him.

''Ladies,do not put up with a guy who is not yet married to you''
This is a common mistake ladies make nowadays.Immediately a guy says I LOVE YOU,they conclude that he is going to marry them and the next thing is to park to his house.Some of them even go uninvited.
A man who truly loves you would never ask you to move in with him,even when he does,you should decline.
Men take advantage of that,some of them would keep you there and go look for a more decent girl outside who they would marry formally.
Hear this true life story;
Aisha disobeyed her parents and moved in with a man who promised to give her heaven and earth,this guy was to her,the best that had happened to her.They have lived for 12 good years and yet,no marriage proposal,let alone a wedding.Recently,she heard from a genuine source that her man was going to get married in his home town and had even secured a new job there.He plans on leaving her in the apartment given to him by his work-place.
12 solid years,wasted.
Men can be shrewd.Most men would say,why pay for something that I have had free of charge?
Ladies,let a man want you,make him look for you,make him know your worth,make him know you can still do without him.
Don't fall cheaply,you are a queen.

Jilted few months to his wedding,what should he do?

Met this guy who was ranting and shouting in a saloon where l went to wash my hair. At first,l taught he was crazy,not until my friend,the owner of the saloon gave me the gist.
This guy have been parading a girl around town,telling everyone they are both getting married soonest,and frankly,they will,hopefully December.

The guy claimed he pays the girl's bills,put her on a #40,000 allowance monthly and even gave her #300,000 recently for her wedding shopping.
Now to the reason why he was going mad,the girl called him few days ago that she was going to a cousins house which the guy declined of,but she left anyway. The guy later found out that the girl went to a guys house and even slept over there.

The guy is really going out of his mind,as he even hit a small girl due to over-speeding,he needs advice and he needs it fast.What do you think he should do?

Question:Why don't girls show contentment?

Hey readers,hope y'all woke up safe and sound. Happy ED-AL KABIR to all my Islamic readers.

A reader of GTB asked me a question I taught to share with you guys.

Dear Grace,
   Why is it that girl's don't get contented these days with what we(boys) gives them?They are too demanding and unappreciative.

Like seriously?

Do you  have any reply or comment? Please use the comment box,thanks.

Relationship DON'T for the day: Do not tell a lie

Hey readers,I will try to share with you on things you should do and shouldn't do in your relationships from today.
The relationship DON'T for the day is;

DO NOT LIE TO YOUR PARTNER

Relationships built on lies can never stand.Why tell someone who you intend to spend the rest of your life with lies?Why tell him/her that you are from a royal/wealthy family,when your parents just got kicked out from a room apartment they couldn't afford to pay,or that you are working in an oil company or bank when actually,you are an applicant or even a taxi driver?

How would you feel if you are the person told this lie?
The relationship if may continue,would take time to adjust to been worth trusting and every word you utter henceforth,monitored.

Be true to your spouse/partner. Lying doesn't pay,instead it makes you look untrustworthy and undeserving.

 Don't  tell a lie,no matter how it may look.

Indecent dressing and its encroachment in our society today

Indecent dressing can be described as an act of deliberate exposure of one's body to the public. This practice is contrary to acceptable norms and values of any society.

                

Moral decadence on the hand is a reduction in the level of morality in the society. Do you observe that most (Ladies) had gone haywire all in the name of dressing? The other day I screamed when I saw a girl whose parents barely feed well, dressed with half of her breast and buttocks outside. The trouser she wore is such that half of her buttocks was outside, with beads and terrible make-ups and I heard her mother telling her “to have a nice day”.

Some girls have been abused and even embarrassed publicly because of their outrageous outfit.

Indecent dressing is the major cause of the various assault and sexual harassment recorded in the society, overtime. As a result of civilization, Nigeria ladies dress half naked to occasions all in the name of fashion and this is contrary to the prestige placed on African women. For instance, Nigeria ladies derive pleasure in wearing cloth such as, Mini Skirt, bumper short, arm less etc.

Is dating more than one girl wrong?

Hey readers,top of the weekend to y'all. Hope you are having a nice Sunday.
Remember,you can send your dating/relationship questions to me tru my bb pin:2AECCA71 or email ijeworldrocks@gmail.com.
A reader sent a question to me via my bb and I taught to share it here anonymously.Read it below and drop your comments.Thanks

Dear Grace,
I am dating three girls,find it difficult with choosing the right one. I started seeing more than one girl because as you know,ladies cannot be trusted these days,so don't wanna put my eggs in one basket.
Is dating three girls wrong? How do I even settle with one and discard the others? Need answers asap.

How to build trust in your relationships

Trust is the cornerstone of any working, healthy relationship. Without trust, you don’t have a solid foundation and your relationship could end up crumbling. As you get to know someone and fall in love, trust has to be built. Here are some simple ways to do that.

1. SHARE YOUR FEELINGS

If you want your partner to be honest with you, you need to be honest with him –- that's the only way you're going to build trust in your relationship. This means being truthful about how you feel, rather than keeping your cards too close to your chest. Sharing intimate details about your life and who you are can bring you and your partner closer, setting the foundation for trust and intimacy. The more you share, the more your partner will share and the more you know about each other, and how you both feel, the closer you'll become.

2.BE OPEN TO TRUST

Trusting someone can be hard, especially if you've been deceived in the past. But it's up to you to open yourself up to trusting someone else in spite of past heartache. This can be a difficult process so just go one day at a time and realize that even though one guy hurt you it doesn't mean every male has a negative streak that's just waiting to rear its ugly head. Being open to trust means being a little bit vulnerable, which can feel strange if you've been closed off to love since your last breakup. Remember: The more you allow yourself to trust the person you love, the stronger your relationship will be.

3.TRUST YOURSELF

Part of building trust in your relationship is being able to trust yourself and your instincts. If you've found someone you love and you want to make the relationship work, trust the fact that the person you're with is right for you and that if something were to go awry you would know (or feel) it. Rather than feeling unsure of yourself or scared to let go and enjoy your new romance, trust that you know what you're doing and can handle whatever happens.

DO you trust your partner? Does he/she trust you?Share your opinions now

Cheating in relationships/marriages

Cheating doesn't occur only when one kisses, meets or have sexual relation with a third party. Once you find yourself deleting text messages and e-mails so your partner won't see them, you are already there. Once you find it uncomfortable to chat, send text messages, receive calls or make calls to some people because your partner is around; once you find it very difficult to allow your partner to make us of your phone, answer your calls in your presence or absence then know that you are already a cheat.
Its like a cancer it develops slowly but you will surely feel the pain when its fully grown.

 The funny thing is most of the times, people try to find what they already have because they don't just appreciate what they have. Remember the grass may look green on the other side but what if you could just invest time and energy by watering the one that you have. Wouldn't the world be a better place to be today?
Can you imagine how strong your relationship would be if you would not waste your energy, resources and time on things that have no future. Secret, small, hidden relationships are like ticks they suck all the good things out of your marriage or relationship and makes it unstable. It will take you more effort to repair what you would have damaged and the sad thing is sometimes those wounds might never heal.

A tale about my country:Welcome to Nigeria

Welcome 2 Nigeria where a blind begger will reject a fake naira note.

*Where ladies don't accept flowers 4 birthday or val gift.

*where parents claim dey always come first position in sch.

*where d presidents & other govt officials don't knw d national anthem.

*where gala & lacasera is d best option wen struck in hold up.

*where u can be a Driver for yrs without a Driver's licence.

*where u are robbed of ur phone & robbers come back for pin & charger.

*where politicians use big unnecessary grammer to scam pple.

*where u are jailed 4 stealing maggi & given chieftancy title 4 stealing millions & front row seat in church.

*where d type of ur generator shows how rich u are.

*where u can blame ur unsuccessful Life on family members in d village.

*where citizens are more afraid of police than armed robbers. Hmmm.

May God have mercy on us

Understanding marriage,Part 1

                                    
Marriage is a lifetime thing, and is a sacred and divinely consecrated institution, ordained in the hands of a loving and all-wise God for the good, happiness, and general welfare of mankind. It should never be entered into thoughtlessly, recklessly, or hastily; but thoughtfully, prayerfully, reverently, discreetly, and in full consideration of the purposes for which God ordained it. Remember as you approach the time when you will be casting about for the person who is to be your life’s companion, that your whole life lies ahead of you and the course of your life is being charted. The most important decision of your life is being made right at that time.

A solid marriage that will continue to produce peace and contentment on through the uneven journey of life and the changing fortunes of war, so to speak (for life is a warfare, according to the Scriptures), must be established on something more than just physical beauty, physical attraction and attractiveness. All of that may change and fade as age comes on, work its changes in the physical features and form of a person, and take its toll.

There must be deep mutual love, respect, trust, and confidence between the two parties to bind them together and under-gird them for the struggles of life that lie ahead. This may exist entirely separate from, and independent of, physical charm, beauty, and physical attraction. Let me say right here that you should never enter into a marriage with a person you cannot trust implicitly. That would be a great big mistake. Your life would be filled with misery and woe because of your perpetual suspicion and wonderment about your mate.

The great danger for youth is, that so many times they mistake infatuation and physical attraction for love, and later on, when that begins to fade, they find their foundation crumbling from underneath them.

Do you know the difference between love and infatuation?

Story of the day:A letter from Jesus

                                    

Ruth looked at the envelope again. There was no stamp, no postmark, only her name and address. She read the letter one more time...

Dear Ruth,

I'm going to be in your neighborhood Saturday afternoon and I'd like to stop by for a visit.

Love Always,

Jesus

Her hands were shaking as she placed the letter on the table. "Why would the Lord want to visit me? I'm nobody special. I don't have anything to offer."

With that thought, Ruth remembered her empty kitchen cabinets. "Oh my goodness, I really don't have anything to offer. I'll have to run down to the store and buy something for dinner."

She reached for her purse and counted out its contents. Seven dollars and forty cents. "Well, I can get some bread and cold cuts, at least." She threw on her coat and hurried out the door.

A loaf of french bread, a half-pound of sliced turkey, and a carton of milk...leaving Ruth with a grand total of twelve cents to last her until Monday. Nonetheless, she felt satisfied as she headed home, her meager offerings tucked under her arm.

"Hey lady, can you help us, lady?" Ruth had been so absorbed in her dinner plans, she hadn't even noticed two figures huddled in the alleyway. A man and a woman, both of them dressed in little more than rags.

"Look lady, I ain't got a job, ya know, and my wife and I have been living out here on the street, and, well, now it's getting cold and we're getting kinda hungry and, well, if you could help us, lady, we'd really appreciate it."

Question for the day:Can a single Christian have sex before marriage?

God is looking for holy people. Christian mates who will not destroy his temple by giving themselves to multiple partners. "Do you know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you. If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him, for the temple of God is holy and that is what you are." I Cor. 3:16.

The bible tells us to flee fornication. Keep your temple clean and look for others who are doing the same. The Lord understands that you are flesh and have weaknesses. Nevertheless, He does not want you to be used and abused by others who care only to take advantage of you. 

God desires that you find a mate who will not just serve you with their body, but physically, mentally, socially, financially and spiritually. He wants you to have the "total package. This is why He ordained marriage. Therefore, that one person can get the whole package. It is better to receive the total package, than receive just ¼ of it!

So,what are your views?Please be moderate in commenting.Thanks