Question of the day:Can you use fetish means to get a person to marry you?

Many a times,people wonder why so many persevere in relationships and marriages even when it is obviously going nowhere. Ever wondered why so many still linger in such dooms?

A person suggested that there might be something absurd behind it. Do you think someone might use a fetish means to lure a spouse???

Please share your thoughts below

Understanding marriage,Part 1

                                    
Marriage is a lifetime thing, and is a sacred and divinely consecrated institution, ordained in the hands of a loving and all-wise God for the good, happiness, and general welfare of mankind. It should never be entered into thoughtlessly, recklessly, or hastily; but thoughtfully, prayerfully, reverently, discreetly, and in full consideration of the purposes for which God ordained it. Remember as you approach the time when you will be casting about for the person who is to be your life’s companion, that your whole life lies ahead of you and the course of your life is being charted. The most important decision of your life is being made right at that time.

A solid marriage that will continue to produce peace and contentment on through the uneven journey of life and the changing fortunes of war, so to speak (for life is a warfare, according to the Scriptures), must be established on something more than just physical beauty, physical attraction and attractiveness. All of that may change and fade as age comes on, work its changes in the physical features and form of a person, and take its toll.

There must be deep mutual love, respect, trust, and confidence between the two parties to bind them together and under-gird them for the struggles of life that lie ahead. This may exist entirely separate from, and independent of, physical charm, beauty, and physical attraction. Let me say right here that you should never enter into a marriage with a person you cannot trust implicitly. That would be a great big mistake. Your life would be filled with misery and woe because of your perpetual suspicion and wonderment about your mate.

The great danger for youth is, that so many times they mistake infatuation and physical attraction for love, and later on, when that begins to fade, they find their foundation crumbling from underneath them.

Do you know the difference between love and infatuation?

Signs that you are in a wrong relationship,and when to call it quit

A relationship is supposed to be the fun,adventurous and impacting.Relationships are meant to teach you something in life.They should be therefore,built on trust and loyalty.
If your relationship isn't giving you what you want,it's an indication that you shouldn't have been in it in the first place.Below are signs that shows when a relationship should be discontinued;

1.Lack of trust

No relationship,even marriage can move forward without without trust.You have to trust your spouse/partner so much,not sniffing through their phones,checking their social media accounts,their mails and even trailing them to some extent.If you love someone,then trusting him/her shouldn't be an issue.If you are in a relationship were you are not trusted,have a re-think.It might be a bad sign.
Lack of trust can destroy relationships,can make a guy beat up his girlfriend and even a man beat up his wife.

2.Physical violence

There no relationship without violence,but when the violence gets physical,then its time to make an exit.No man,I mean,NO man who loves a woman dearly,could raise his hands on her.
Your man is supposed to love and cherish you,treat you like a queen,pamper you,not the other way round.If a guy becomes violent physically towards you,its a big RED sign.
Don't think he would change afterwards,they only grow worse. Try to come to a conclusion with him on the matter,if repeated........EXIT.

How to show little romantic gestures to your spouse

A relationship with romance lasts longer than one without. Men and women can keep a fire burning when they keep the romance in the picture. Romance is easy. All it takes is a little imagination or thought. Many people tend to lose the romance after a short amount of time. When couples become too comfortable or too wrapped up in their careers, romance will begin to fade. Making an effort to show that you care is priceless and essential for the romance to last.

1. One way people say "I love you" includes doing the obvious things like surprising the one they love with unexpected flowers. Bringing home flowers for a special occasion like an anniversary or birthday is nice but bringing them home just to say you were thinking of them, is a romantic gesture. Sending flowers to your girlfriend or wife’s job will get her recognition and show you care. Women love for their friends to see that their man cares about them.
2. Cooking a nice dinner and setting the mood with candle light and soft music can be a good gesture for romance. A fire in the fireplace and a bottle of wine will set the mood for romance. Spending the quiet time with the one you love is romantic in itself. Sometimes all the better half wants is your time.
3. People do not stop and think about washing the dishes as a romantic gesture but it can be. When someone has had a hard day at work, let them go and sit down with a comfortable pillow and wash the dishes for them. Finish it off with a good glass of wine and a foot massage. This is very romantic, especially to women. When a man stops and realizes that his wife may be too tired to wash dishes, and does it for her.
4. A note left in a packed lunch that says, “I love you” is a good romantic gesture that will take that special person by surprise. Packing a special lunch for your partner can make their lunch time special, especially when they find the note.
5. Planning a special date with the one you love is romantic. Pack up a picnic lunch and a blanket, drive somewhere where you two can be alone. Make sure to pack things like grapes and strawberries. These foods lead to feeding each other. Take out the blanket and picnic and spend some time alone. Read your lover a romantic story or poem from a book.

Putting a little bit of effort into being romantic is easy. It does not have to cost a lot of money to show you care. People that do things for no reason other than to show they care are very romantic. People that take time to go on a date night with the one they love are making a romantic gesture to keep the romance in the relationship. Dinner and a romantic movie are perfect for setting a mood for romance.

How to make your marriage last.

Many marriages  which crash these days, do so because the companionship and sweetness they experienced and had while dating. This loss of sweetness occurs because many forgets the attracting factor which brought them together. The saying that lack of friendship is what leads to unhappy marriages cannot be argued also. To make your marriage love-filled,apply the following tips;

• Don’t stop dating

Many couples forget what made them attracted to their mates in the first place. Sometimes work or kids leave them with little time to grow as a couple and they move away from dating.This can pose a serious problem for couples. It's important to keep that spark alive by continuing to date. Whether it is once a week or once a month, it's important to get some alone time with each other. This might mean getting a babysitter for an evening or putting overtime at the plant on hold. If your partner is worth it, don't let the relationship grow stagnant and die.

• Try making love in exciting new places

Many couples fall into routine lovemaking. While there's nothing wrong with routine, it's always a good thing to add some spontaneity to the relationship.One great way to inject more passion into your relationship is to take your love making outside the bedroom. Make love in different rooms of your house and in public places or places that you'd never normally think of as a hot spot.

Remember when you first met, and couldn't keep your hands off of each other? That's the kind of passion you want to recapture. Your partner wants to know that they're still attractive, desirable and you can't get enough of them. They want to feel like they still have it in them to drive you crazy with lust, with a glance or a touch. Flirt with each other and build the anticipation.

• Don't take each other for granted

Taking each other for granted and doing the same thing over and over again, will lead most couples down the boredom highway. Every once in a while (as much as possible!) you need to hit the gas and swerve off that highway if you want your relationship to last. It's not terribly difficult to spice up your marriage - it can be a lot of fun!

Some tips on dating someone of different religion

 

Why has religion assumed so much importance that sometimes it influences our actions? No matter how open minded we have become, issues like religion do matter in relationships; unless you are looking for a fling. Did you know that religion affects dating choices, although teens do not mind seeing a person randomly. It is also true that attraction has no bars; you could start loving someone you thought you would never even date! For a successful long term relationship you need to understand each other in and out. But relax, you need not worry so much about the future, you've just entered the dating phase and you should enjoy and explore the relationship... Now, are you attracted to someone who follows a different culture and faith? Have you succeeded in asking that girl/boy out? You want to make your first date a perfect affair, don't you? You do need to take special care while dating a person of another religion to avoid spoiling the affair with awkward moments and talks. In need of some help? Well, keep reading further for tips to make the first date (and coming dates) between you two cherished.

Respect Your Partner's Faith

To impress your date and get friendly with him/her, respect his or her faith and practices. Each of us belong to a religion and have some practices imbibed in our mind to a certain extent. So learn to honor your date's specific habits. This can be concerning food choices also. What if your date is a hard core vegetarian? Accept it and keep your cravings to eat non-veg food aside. This will definitely give you an edge and help you impress your date quickly.

 

Find the Similarities, Ignore the Differences

We all are human and have one God, believe it. Just the way of worshiping differs. Each religion promotes humanity and love. So find the common and like points between both the faiths and discuss it with your date. Keep the differences under check. You're dating the person and trying to know him/her rather than knowing the religious practices followed by him/her.

Share Your Cultural Practices

A lot of people have this habit of boasting about their religion and talking about the various customs and beliefs. But keep this to a minimum. Be open minded and talk about issues that interest both of you. Doing this you will definitely get an idea about the mentality and beliefs of the person.